While on my little hiatus from blogging, I spent a lot of time thinking about what to write about and one topic I consistently came back to was the question of dating apps. For those that don't know me, this semester, I went on about 1-3 dates a week minimum. I'm currently single as all get out, which I love, because it means that I get to put myself out there and make an effort to meet new people. It's hard, but for me, those beginning stages of dating, when you're just getting to know the people you're dating, is the most exciting. Now, I met every single one of my dates this semester off of a dating app. It's a weird fun fact, but I'm someone who really likes getting to try out and use different dating apps. As of this post, I have accounts with Bumble, Tinder, Hinge and OkCupid (a surprising one apparently for a 20 year old!) and I've found that each serves its own purpose in my dating life. Today, I'm going to talk about Bumble, which has time and time again, proved itself to be my favorite dating app, hands down.
I've been using Bumble for the longest consistent amount of time. I downloaded it fall of my freshman year, right around my first college Thanksgiving break, and haven't deleted it since (I haven't been in any long term relationships, but I've found that I've enjoyed the casual/lowkey dating experiences that I've had!).I had been using Tinder and felt lackluster about it. Bumble was starting to gain notice in the tech world, so I figured I'd check it out. As soon as I heard about it, I instantly liked it more than Tinder. I liked that it was the "feminist" version of a well-known and infamous dating app and that it was founded by a woman.
To be fully honest, since downloading it, I've had the most success by far from it than any other dating app. The people who are shown as my matches are generally more attractive (in the very superficial societal sense), in both men and women- yes, as someone who is bi, I swipe for both "options" on Bumble. When you match with someone, if it's a heterosexual couple, the woman has to message within 24 hours or else the match is lost. For same sex couples, either person can message within 24 hours. Bumble now connects to Facebook, and you can connect it to Spotify and Instagram if you want. I like that Bumble verifies who you are with your Facebook, and that it's connected to at least one social network (unlike OkCupid).
For me, I've found that Bumble tends to be less of a hookup app, and more of a casual dating, or true dating app. This is less true now, with Tinder fckbois (sorry, but there's no other way to put it) infiltrating to see what all the fuss is about, but I still think that it holds true more than Tinder. I think that putting the power of starting the conversation into the woman's hands allows women a) a more level playing field, b) a chance to actually not be inundated with sexual innuedos and harrassment through a screen right off the bat, and c) a chance for the dating games to be changed.
I also LOVE bumble's branding. This company does a fantastic job of supporting it's female users first and foremost, something that I completely adore as someone who has deleted and reported probably hundreds of disgusting messages from people reducing women to objects. I'd recommend checking out their Instagram for a taste of what their company stands for, and their facebook page. I personally have never had to report any users on Bumble for their conversations, but I've heard that the company handles it insanely well.
Now, when it comes to the type of people you meet on Bumble? There's no one type. I've gone on so many dates with so many different types of people, that it's impossible to say what type of person you'll find on there. However, I've found that the people I've matched with on Bumble surely seem to be more progressive and more willing to/wanting to see women be given more power in the dating world. I can't say that people still don't play dating games and mind games on there as much as I'd like to, but it's surely less than any other app I've used. However, the more I use other apps, the more I end up turning to Bumble again and again. I love the empowerment I get from being pushed to make the first move, and I love that first and foremost, they support women, something that needs to happen more and more in the dating world.
If you're interested in my personal experience with Bumble or dating apps in general, I'm surely happy to talk to you about it and feel free to email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) or DM me on Instagram (@missmollyem)!
I hope y'all enjoyed my little bit of insight into dating- I'm thinking of turning this into a series- let me know if that's something y'all would like!